I’m just as likely to be reading this type of article as I am to be writing it. I’ve struggled with getting rid of bad habits my entire life. I wish I could tell you I’m the hardest working engineer in the biz but unfortunately, that’s not the case. I’m always looking for ways to work harder and smarter. That doesn’t mean I’m lazy or don’t work hard but there’s always room for improvement. It all comes down to discipline. You can lose weight, quit smoking, get better at basketball if you can improve your self-discipline and are smart about your approach
In order to give yourself the best chance at getting rid of a bad habit, it’s important to understand your own tendencies and adjust to them accordingly. It’s hard not to feel like I’m the pot calling the kettle back, considering I’ve been “waiting” to start going to the gym for the last 5 years. But that’s not to say I haven’t improved in other areas or displayed self-discipline in other aspects of my life (humble brag; I just celebrated my first year anniversary of not smoking cigarettes).
I started writing the “confessions of an audio engineer” series because I wanted to write about issues I am currently struggling with or have struggled with in the past. Even if admitting some of these things may be embarrassing and writing them out may be difficult, putting my thoughts on paper helps me be self-reflective and gives me a sort of third-party perspective. Ultimately, writing my thoughts down helps me better decipher what they mean and how I can fix them.
Lately, I’ve been disappointed that I haven’t been writing as much music as I’d like. I haven’t finished a song in years. I work on other peoples music and I really enjoy it, but like most audio engineers I got into this field because I enjoy creating music. I want to start finishing more songs and I want to start cultivating better habits when it comes to writing and practicing music. This is where the idea for this article stems from and I hope it helps you as much as it helped me.
Figure out what you want to change
The first step to changing, is figuring out what you want to change. I think it’s hard for a lot of people to step back and unbiasedly look at themselves and figure out what they would like to change about themselves. It’s important to focus on what you can change and stop worrying about what you can’t.
The majority of people go through life without stopping to figure out how they can improve themselves on a larger level. There are certain people that have big egos and feel they are better off thinking that everything they are doing is great or the way they think is the right way. The best advice I can give myself and others is to remember to stay humble, nothing is written in stone. It’s okay to have an opinion, it’s not okay to be ignorant. Be open to changing yourself, your mind, the way you think and the way you live.
Make a list
The best way to figure out what you want to change is by making a list. Write out what you like about yourself. Then, write down what you don’t like about yourself. Now look the list of what you don’t like about yourself and try to figure out the best course of action to go about fixing it. For instance, in terms of life if you’re trying to get in better shape, put down a few different ways you can work towards doing that. So using this example you could say, go to the gym twice a week for 30 min or walk 10,000 steps a day, Make sure that if this is something that’s achievable and not overwhelming. It’s important to keep the goal reasonable or you’ll be more inclined to procrastinate or talk yourself out of doing it. And also make sure that you’re taking into account some of your tendencies. Now, this is the difficult part and some will be better at this the others. So if I hate running on a treadmill or going to the gym, I’ll walk in the park or find exercises I can do at home. If I know I’m not a morning person, then schedule them to exercise in the afternoon. If you know exercising isn’t easy for you, start slower, start with your diet.
Find out and get rid of temptations and other distractions
Are you constantly going on Facebook? Staring at your phone?
Turn off the wifi! Put your phone in airplane mode! Mitigate your distractions by recognizing what they are before you even start working!
It’s common to find your attention drifting. If you find this happening immediately recognize it and cognitively redirect your attention back to what you should be focusing on. I know, easier said than done, the good thing is if you keep at it you’ll get better over time.
Schedule a time
Set aside a specific time to do a task. Make sure that it is written down on a calendar. Writing it down and putting it on your calendar helps hold yourself responsible. As I mentioned before, it’s easy to procrastinate and it’s easy to give yourself excuses to not do something. My biggest problem is when the time comes to do something I tell myself I’ll have time to do it tomorrow or tomorrow’s a better day anyway and I just find a way to convince myself it’s okay not to do something. I’ll talk myself out of doing something that at one point was important enough to put down on a to-do list but
You can’t wait for the motivation or inspiration to start doing something. You have to show up every day and get to work. James Clear who is a Behavior Science Expert says “The work of top creatives isn’t dependent upon motivation or inspiration, but rather it follows a consistent pattern and routine. It’s the mastering of daily habits that lead to creative success, not some mythical spark of genius.”
If you know you have trouble holding yourself accountable when it comes to completing a task, schedule a time to do it. If you don’t do the task at the time specified, you failed. Once you start actually fulfilling these obligations you put down on your calendar, you’ll start to enjoy the feeling of getting shit done. Small wins, add up to big wins.
Don’t give yourself a choice
There’s no excuse for not giving all your effort. If you find yourself constantly thinking of ways to get out of doing something, realize this is a bad trick your brain is playing on you. If you say you’re going to do something, you have to do it!
A technique I like to use is to think of myself as an optimized robot. If I was the perfectly programmed music making robot what would I do? How would I spend my time? This allows me to take a step back and look at the situation from the outside. Robots don’t have a choice. If you schedule a robot to do something at a specific time, they do it. To sum everything up; be cool, be a robot.